Betsy The Lotus Cow Says – No Ordinary Cow

Betsy The Lotus Cow Says – No Ordinary Cow

Guess Betsy wanted to make this known for the post –

I’m not here to blend with the crowd. I’m no ordinary cow.


So…many of you have wondered if Betsy is an actual cow. She’s actually a plush animal 😂 it’s how I portray her in the illustrations. She’s more of a plush animal familiar (i.e. Betsy’s full of magic). Sometimes, she likes to pull tarot cards and do readings. You can see it when viewing my Instagram stories at @redlotusdesignz. You can also check out her bio under the IG highlights “Meet Betsy” to learn more about her.

In fairness, Betsy reminds me not to be a cookie cutter. Sure, she may look like a cow. But that doesn’t mean she acts like one (sometimes she exhibits cat-like behaviour 🤔). In any case, being your own person and identifying your unique nature can scare others. Some of us may be accustomed to seeing the same set of people with personalities, looks, etc. Some folks want to be part of a clique crowd (think Mean Girls) that extends beyond the high school atmosphere. I see this happen online and offline.

It’s a general reminder that you don’t need to fit in society’s “standards” in order to be accepted. Be true to yourself. Be authentic. Be you. Because no one can’t replicate your existence and your purpose for living.

Here’s to living in your own truth and to the beat of your rhythm.

Namaste,

Diana

Unrealistic weight expectations

Unrealistic weight expectations

Betsy felt that the “Jumping Over The Moon” Olympics was udderly a bunch of manure. Especially when the Moon was being snarky towards her.

“You should lose some weight. Then you’ll be able to achieve your dream,” the Moon said.

Betsy rolled her eyes. “Shut the moo up. I prefer my weight on the ground than being inflated with unrealistic expectations.”

Illustration done on Arteza Real Brush Watercolor Pens.


Betsy don’t have time for others who want to police her body. Even if they “meant well” (in their own terms, not hers).

I get it – most folks in society think that when they see a plus size / fat person walking on the street, they feel it’s their right to go up to that person and say “Hey, you need to lose weight so that you’ll live longer.” Or in some cases, feel the need to troll and bully others with comments like “lol go die you fattie.” This is not happening on social media and when we walk out in public, only. It can also be in the form of an app via our mobile devices, such as the case with Weight Watchers releasing their app that’s targeted for kids.

Let’s be clear – those type of comments are not endearing. The messages we send to others (whether subliminal or explicit) are abusive and is damaging to our self esteem. Telling someone to lose weight is like saying you just magically earned a degree in weight loss and you feel the need to share that information from the Internet because “science backed it up” and you want to be that friend/relative who cares about someone’s well being because they couldn’t fit in a single digit clothing size.

Nope, nope and nope 🙅🏻‍♀️ My response? Mind your own business.

Growing up, I’ve had those comments said to me when I was in high school. Even though I was a size 6 at the time, I often heard relatives and classmates telling me that I need to be thin. That I shouldn’t be eating fast food. Even when I became a mom, I sometimes see it from other mothers who passively made comments saying “well, so and so lost 20 pounds after giving birth. She looks so amazing!”

So, what you’re trying to tell me is that I should end up looking like a skeleton? 🤔

Yeah uh…no thanks. I prefer meat on my bones.

I used to go diet hopping years ago due to my insecurities. I tried weight loss pills, those teas where it promised you a “thinner version” without any exercise and sometimes barely ate anything. Not only I ended up being more sick, I felt miserable as shit.

I’ve always been told that you need to eat the “right kind of foods” to maintain your weight loss and if you eat those certain type of foods, you’ll gain weight and die early on. Sometimes, I’ve read stories about folks living up to 100 years old and beyond because their diet consisted of pizza, alcohol and smoking (name whatever vice here that society shunned upon).

Frankly, the topic of weight loss will always be highly debated. Everyone will always have a side in which they’ll fall under. Still, I think many of us should at least have the common sense in letting others be when it comes to their choices. It’s their bodies, their rules.

Speaking of the diet culture, I highly recommend checking out The Fuck It Diet by Caroline Dooner. No, I wasn’t sponsored for mentioning this book. I really enjoy reading Caroline’s book. I wished that the information I knew now from this book was told to me when I was growing up. It would’ve saved me so much heartache and stress when in reality, my body is (and will always be) fine.

I don’t care in looking like a cookie cutter model. I just want to be me, happily eating my donuts, ice cream and pizza wherever and whenever I want without guilt and shame.

If you ever been shamed for eating and being told that you need to lose weight, tell them to mind their business. Do what makes you happy. You’re allowed to enjoy yourself to the fullest. Take up space. Be seen. Be heard.

Namaste,

Diana

Betsy the Lotus Cow Says – Define your Happiness

Betsy the Lotus Cow Says – Define your Happiness

Happy Wednesday, friends! Here’s a quote that Betsy wants to share with y’all:

Your idea of happiness can only be defined by you.

So…what is happiness? According to Merriam-Webster, it can be define as the following:

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A simple definition on the word happiness. Yet, why do we sometimes complicate this quaint concept? For many of us, defining our idea of happiness can stem from a number of factors (not limited to the following):

  • Our childhood upbringing
  • What our peers tell us
  • What society tells us
  • What we see on social media
  • Our mentors / parental figures
  • Celebrities and people that we admire in a high visibility setting
  • What we find comfortable in our daily quo
  • Seeing others appearing successful (online and offline)

Growing up, I was fairly happy in the sense that I had a home to go to and spending time playing video games, conversing with my family, my cats and just being sheltered. My introverted nature came from my willingness to stay hidden in my room, while having an overactive imagination that resulted in dabbling on artistic pursuits (i.e. writing, drawing, painting, etc.).

As I’ve gotten older, my idea of happiness began to change as I was exposed to more situations that made me question my sense of what I originally defined during my childhood years. The thing about happiness is that our concept on what we originally learned many years ago usually changes (either for the better or worse). I do believe we have that ability to understand why our defining moments of happiness changes in our waking life. Some of us may not have an immediate grasp on it. Some already know what they want out in life to stay happy.

At the time of this writing, I can tell you that what makes me happy is helping others and being creative. Spending time with my family is also what keeps me going as I consider them my source of inspiration. I define my own happiness in the sense on what helps me improve my mood without resorting to drastic measures. Happiness, in a nutshell for me, is being content on what I have available.

What makes you happy? How do you define your sense of happiness? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Namaste,
Diana

Betsy the Lotus Cow Says – Worry Less About What Others Think Of You

Betsy the Lotus Cow Says – Worry Less About What Others Think Of You

Happy Friday! Here’s the quote of the day from Betsy the Lotus Cow:

If I’ve spent so much time worrying about what others think of me, I’ll never get anything done.

Personally, this is a lesson that I find myself learning on a daily basis. While I’ve been more comfortable in tuning others out on their criticisms about me, there are some matters that I do take into heart about how I am as a person. I admit – I am pretty sensitive on what is being said about me. A lot of it has to do with the notion growing up that I need to make people happy in order to not create rifts.

Needless to say, I’ve found myself at a level where no matter what others say about me, I still have to keep on living. I still have goals to meet. I still have a life to lead. It’s not easy. Especially when it comes from family, friends, coworkers, etc. But, I’ve learned that in order to accomplish anything in life, you need to have thicker skin when dealing with folks who are envious, miserable, and just plain mean.

I often seen this happening on the Internet. One minute you’re the greatest person on the timeline. Next thing you know, someone wants to say crap about your existence, what you did and find every reason to drag your name down. And while it’s disheartening to see those fueling that energy in a position of negativity, I learned that folks will always have different stories about you. Some may think of you as the hero. Some may think of you as the villain. There’s no stopping of stories being told about what others perceive about me.

I wonder how celebrities manage these types of criticisms. It’s difficult, especially when they’re in the public eye and everyone has an opinion on what you should and shouldn’t do. Even before the age of social media, society has always found ways to distort the truth through different mediums (i.e. newspapers, magazines, radio, books, etc.).

These days, I’m comfortable in knowing that others will have an opinion about me. And that’s all right. People are entitled to think about how they perceive my existence. My main concern is my own happiness, how I choose to live my life and what I can accomplish during this lifetime of mine. I’m still a firm believer that there are others who are good and are truly supportive.

May you find the courage to keep on pursuing your dreams without the constant noise and chatter from others. Your success depends on what you believe in, not on the negativity of others. Bring forth a change that exemplifies positivity, especially in these rough times. Worry less about what others think of you. No one knows your path better than yourself.

Namaste,
Diana

 

Betsy The Lotus Cow Says – Don’t be afraid to fail!

Betsy The Lotus Cow Says – Don’t be afraid to fail!

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Happy Monday, friends! I’m starting off a fun series called “Betsy the Lotus Cow Says” where Betsy quips in about life from a moo-tivational and sassy manner.


Betsy’s quote for the day:

It’s okay to fail! That’s how we learn. There’s no such thing as a perfect life.

Oh boy. I tried so hard in not wanting to fail, but it happens. The Moon in Virgo part of me feels the need to make everything perfect and top-notch. Doing half-assed work makes me feel super guilty. However, the Sun in Taurus part of me realizes that I need to chill out. And perhaps for a good reason, too.

What I’ve learned over the past couple of years is that failing is part of our growth process. As much as we don’t want to admit it, failing helps us provide a newer perspective that we never discovered before until now. Whether if it’s career, life, relationships, etc…there’s plenty of opportunities for growth.

I think for many of us, we’re too focused (including myself) that having a perfect plan will set us up for a perfect future. It’s not a linear path all of us take. If you were to imagine your life in a graphical perspective, the line would be filled with ups and downs on the chart. Some points you’ll hit rock bottom. And that’s ok.

Today, I ask you to step aside the perfectionism and embrace those flaws. At the end of the day, we’re all human. Learn from your mistakes and understand that this is part of the larger experience at hand.

Rooting for you on this manic Monday!

Namaste,
Diana

We’re in this together, moo.

We’re in this together, moo.

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Betsy knows that it’s rough out there. All the negativity, the hate, the strife. Makes you want to stay in bed and not move a single inch to face reality. She understands and wants you to know that you’re not alone.

A bit of positivity goes a long way. I want you to know that you’re doing the best you can. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not doing enough.

You are enough. 
You are strong.
You are meant to be here.
You have every reason to exist.
You have the ability to make things better.
You are brave.

Most importantly…

You’re human. 

Sending you love and hugs your way. I believe in you. Let me know what you’re going through in the comments below. I’m here to listen.

Namaste,
Diana