Betsy The Lotus Cow Says – No Ordinary Cow

Betsy The Lotus Cow Says – No Ordinary Cow

Guess Betsy wanted to make this known for the post –

I’m not here to blend with the crowd. I’m no ordinary cow.


So…many of you have wondered if Betsy is an actual cow. She’s actually a plush animal ๐Ÿ˜‚ it’s how I portray her in the illustrations. She’s more of a plush animal familiar (i.e. Betsy’s full of magic). Sometimes, she likes to pull tarot cards and do readings. You can see it when viewing my Instagram stories at @redlotusdesignz. You can also check out her bio under the IG highlights “Meet Betsy” to learn more about her.

In fairness, Betsy reminds me not to be a cookie cutter. Sure, she may look like a cow. But that doesn’t mean she acts like one (sometimes she exhibits cat-like behaviour ๐Ÿค”). In any case, being your own person and identifying your unique nature can scare others. Some of us may be accustomed to seeing the same set of people with personalities, looks, etc. Some folks want to be part of a clique crowd (think Mean Girls) that extends beyond the high school atmosphere. I see this happen online and offline.

It’s a general reminder that you don’t need to fit in society’s “standards” in order to be accepted. Be true to yourself. Be authentic. Be you. Because no one can’t replicate your existence and your purpose for living.

Here’s to living in your own truth and to the beat of your rhythm.

Namaste,

Diana

When your package is out for delivery

When your package is out for delivery

Betsy likes to order packages online. It saves her the trip from walking to her local craft store. Sometimes, the local mail carrier gets fed up with Betsy’s overspending habits and ends up keeping the package in the truck ๐Ÿ˜•

Illustration made with Procreate App.


Ordering items online can be a hit or miss. And I suspect that my local post office is fed up with my orders coming in on a daily basis. Hey, I’m trying to save on gas instead of driving to and from the grocery store when buying items in bulk at home ๐Ÿ˜‘

I know there’s some good mail carriers out there who are friendly. But goodness, there are some who just don’t want to do the work. As we’re gearing towards the holiday season, online stores are gearing up for the shopping rush. I see myself spending less during the colder weather (with the exception of food). Because you know, survival reasons.

I think one of my “fondest” (note my sarcasm in quotes) memory on a mail delivery mishap was when years ago, I was looking to make aromatherapy sprays for myself and family / friends. I probably paid around $20 for the amber glass spray bottles and essential oils to arrive within the same day via Amazon. Usually with same day delivery shipping, it’s automatically sent via Lasership. I saw the package was out for delivery for about an hour. Eventually, I received an alert on my phone saying it was delivered. I said to myself, Great! I can finally work on my aromatherapy sprays and save myself money from buying premixed sprays.

Except…it was never delivered.

*plays Law & Order theme music*

After checking the areas in front of my home to see where my package went, I decided to contact the local Lasership base in New York. What should’ve taken less than 10 minutes ended up being the most awkward 45 minutes of my conversation between the representative and the manager of the place:

Me: “Hello, I noticed that the tracking number [reads off number over the phone] shows to be delivered but I never received the package.

Agent: “Um…ok. So sorry about it. It shows that it was delivered to the correct address.”

Me: “If it was, then I would have the package in my possession. Is there a way to get in touch with the driver?”

Agent: “He’s out for the day. He did send us a picture that it was delivered to your address.”

Me: “Strange. As I mentioned, it was not there when I checked my mailbox.”

Agent: [puts me on pause for 5 minutes; resumes chat] “Ok, the driver said it was there at the door.”

Me: “Nope. Not there.”

Agent: [puts me on pause for another 5 minutes; resumes chat] “Ok, the driver is saying that it’s near the door where the garbage can is located.”

Me: “…Nope. Did the driver forget where he delivered?”

[a brief pause]

Agent: “Let me connect you with my manager. Please hold.”

[after waiting 7 minutes]

Manager: “Hi there, I’m sorry that you didn’t receive your package. I want to make sure that we understand your situation carefully. So, just to confirm, you didn’t see it around your house?”

Me: “Yes, that’s correct.”

Manager: [brieflyย pauses, then speaks] “Well…I’m looking at the picture that our driver showed us. That’s a nice house you have here. Really nice house.”

Me: “Thanks, but that still doesn’t answer my question as to where the package went.”

Manager: [nervously laughs] “Well, I think you may have not looked carefully. After all, it’s a large house. You should’ve seen it in frontย  of the door.”

Me [feeling frustrated]: “Look, I already said this before with the agent. There is no package. My good guess is that right after the driver took the picture of the package, your driver ended up taking my order and placed it back in its car.”

Manager: [quickly becoming defensive]: “Sorry but that’s not true. Our driver made sure it was delivered.”

Me: “I’m not sure why you’re getting upset when I’m pointing this scenario out. If the driver really took the package, then I hope your driver is all right in learning how to create aromatherapy sprays for witchcraft purposes.”

Manager: [hangs up the phone].

And there you have it, folks. Luckily, I was able to let Amazon know about this experience and they were pretty quick to refund my purchase.

Got any stories you want to share about your experiences with your local mail carriers? Let me know in the comments!

Namaste,
Diana

Betsy the Lotus Cow Says – Change

Betsy the Lotus Cow Says – Change

Happy Monday, friends! Here’s a quote that Betsy would like to share with y’all:

Change is part of the growth cycle. Understand why the change is happening in your life.

Maybe it’s the stereotypical part of my Taurean nature, but I don’t like change. I like to do things in a routine and remain comfortable. Perhaps it’s a flaw on my own end. Or maybe I’m just lazy ๐Ÿ˜‚

In any case, change is a crucial part in our lives. No matter what point in your life you’re currently experiencing, every change is happening for a reason. Some changes are planned. Some changes aren’t.

It’s important to recognise why these changes are happening. Whether if the answers are immediate or at a later time, it will be known one way or another.

Have you experienced a moment in your life where change occurred and had to reflect as to why it happened? I would love to read your responses below ๐Ÿ’ญ

Namaste,

Diana

Separation Anxiety

Separation Anxiety

One of Betsy’s greatest fears is that she’ll be left alone without her family. This is why she demands to travel with them, no matter the length of the trip.

Poor Betsy. She hates feeling alone. Especially when her owners go out travelling. Even though she’s introverted by nature, Betsy can’t help but feel that she’s abandoned by her owners. It’s why she needs to be part of their travels. Now if she could sign up for a passport…

Image created with Procreate App.


Separation anxiety is a real feeling. Especially when you’re taking your son to preschool for the first time.

It’s now day 2 of the school year and so far, my son seems to be enjoying his class. To be honest, I was expecting a major meltdown. Especially when my son never went to day care in his earlier years. I’m feeling thankful for his teacher in reassuring the parents that they’re in safe hands. I think what helped is that I’ve spoken in a positive tone about what to expect with preschool and that he’ll have more toys to play with during his school hours. Plus, we sometimes watch preschool content together to give him a sense on what to expect when school starts.

I know that if my son had his way, he would follow me everywhere I go outside ๐Ÿ˜… but…he needs to start doing his own thing. Which means making adventures and be part of the educational journey. Being a mother means knowing when to step in and when your little one needs to spread their wings.

I admit, hearing the quiet nature of the house for the first time felt odd. I’ve grown accustomed in hearing my son talking and playing with his toys. Perhaps part of that separation anxiety is honouring the transition and provide reassurance to my son (and to myself) that this is a normal feeling and it’ll pass soon. Hearing from his teacher that he did well on his second day gave me hope.

To all of the parents out there – how do you cope with separation anxiety? I would love to read your responses in the comment section.

Namaste,

Diana

Betsy The Lotus Cow Says – Online Shopping Sometimes Suck

Betsy The Lotus Cow Says – Online Shopping Sometimes Suck

Happy Wednesday, friends! Here’s a fun quote that Betsy would like to share with y’all:

Buying a product with high expectations and perfect reviews only to realise that it doesn’t work for more than 2 days made me distrust online shopping.

๐Ÿ˜… I think the quote above pretty much sums up my feelings on my recent online shopping experience.

So on this post, I’ve mentioned that I would try out the knitting machine. And, well…I did! The package arrived last Saturday.

I went with the $50 brand rather than spending $200 since I saw some positive reviews on this product. So far, so good. I posted my experience via my IG stories on that day and was pleasantly surprised how fast the machine worked.

I used up the three yarns that it came with the package and managed to create a scarf. Even with the slight messy start in changing colours when feeding it through the machine, it stayed intact.

Feeling the excitement, I worked on another project in creating a rainbow beanie hat for my son.

The yarn I used was from Caron Simply Soft by Yarninspirations. Probably one of the best yarns I’ve worked with so far in creating a beanie hat. Plus, the weight of the yarn worked perfectly for this machine. Within 30 minutes or so, I created a full sized beanie hat for my son to wear during the colder season when he goes to preschool.

Reading the positive reviews online, I felt sure that I made the right decision. I mean, what could possibly go wrong? So far, the general consensus was that it was a great starter knitting machine for a budget friendly crafted.

(In a narrator voice: Alas, Diana discovered that it was not the case.)

On Tuesday, while I was on my lunch break, I decided to use up the remaining yarn to make a scarf. After casting the stitches, I noticed that the needles were more wobbly than usual. I was also careful in making sure that the working yarn was being threaded with the needle hooks. Needless to say, by the fourth row, I noticed that the stitches dropped. At first, I thought it might be due to setting the tension loosely. After a couple of tries and wasted yarn, I came to the realisation that the knitting machine became defective. It was no longer latching on the working yarn like it used to when I first bought the machine.

And this whole ordeal lasted two days.

As if that wasn’t fun enough, I requested to have UPS pick up the package via Amazon on Tuesday. Today is Wednesday. Not only the UPS Driver left a label on my doorstep, he sped off without picking up my knitting machine. UPS needs to hire better drivers.

Thank goodness for my hubby since he’ll drop it off sometime this week. But yeah…online shopping is a hit or miss. I feel it may get worse now that we’re near the early stages of holiday shopping.

I think it’s a sign that I should be sticking to loom knitting since there’s more pros that outweighs the cons:

  • Less chances of stitches slipping since they’re wrapped on the pegs.
  • Loom knitting tools tend to be more forgiving with the yarn of your choice (i.e. you can either use the bulky or thin yarn).
  • They’re portable.
  • Loom knitting tools can come with various sizes, rather than being stuck to one size.
  • More patterns available for loom knitting tools than with knitting machines.

I should note that I’m usually proactive when doing my research. Unfortunately, it was one of those instances where it was too good to be true. Sometimes, the hand method works better than machines!

Let me know in the comments below if you had high expectations on a product after reading positive reviews and found out that it was a real flop. Would love to read your experiences!

Namaste,

Diana

Unrealistic weight expectations

Unrealistic weight expectations

Betsy felt that the “Jumping Over The Moon” Olympics was udderly a bunch of manure. Especially when the Moon was being snarky towards her.

“You should lose some weight. Then you’ll be able to achieve your dream,” the Moon said.

Betsy rolled her eyes. “Shut the moo up. I prefer my weight on the ground than being inflated with unrealistic expectations.”

Illustration done on Arteza Real Brush Watercolor Pens.


Betsy don’t have time for others who want to police her body. Even if they “meant well” (in their own terms, not hers).

I get it – most folks in society think that when they see a plus size / fat person walking on the street, they feel it’s their right to go up to that person and say “Hey, you need to lose weight so that you’ll live longer.” Or in some cases, feel the need to troll and bully others with comments like “lol go die you fattie.” This is not happening on social media and when we walk out in public, only. It can also be in the form of an app via our mobile devices, such as the case with Weight Watchers releasing their app that’s targeted for kids.

Let’s be clear – those type of comments are not endearing. The messages we send to others (whether subliminal or explicit) are abusive and is damaging to our self esteem. Telling someone to lose weight is like saying you just magically earned a degree in weight loss and you feel the need to share that information from the Internet because “science backed it up” and you want to be that friend/relative who cares about someone’s well being because they couldn’t fit in a single digit clothing size.

Nope, nope and nope ๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ My response? Mind your own business.

Growing up, I’ve had those comments said to me when I was in high school. Even though I was a size 6 at the time, I often heard relatives and classmates telling me that I need to be thin. That I shouldn’t be eating fast food. Even when I became a mom, I sometimes see it from other mothers who passively made comments saying “well, so and so lost 20 pounds after giving birth. She looks so amazing!”

So, what you’re trying to tell me is that I should end up looking like a skeleton? ๐Ÿค”

Yeah uh…no thanks. I prefer meat on my bones.

I used to go diet hopping years ago due to my insecurities. I tried weight loss pills, those teas where it promised you a “thinner version” without any exercise and sometimes barely ate anything. Not only I ended up being more sick, I felt miserable as shit.

I’ve always been told that you need to eat the “right kind of foods” to maintain your weight loss and if you eat those certain type of foods, you’ll gain weight and die early on. Sometimes, I’ve read stories about folks living up to 100 years old and beyond because their diet consisted of pizza, alcohol and smoking (name whatever vice here that society shunned upon).

Frankly, the topic of weight loss will always be highly debated. Everyone will always have a side in which they’ll fall under. Still, I think many of us should at least have the common sense in letting others be when it comes to their choices. It’s their bodies, their rules.

Speaking of the diet culture, I highly recommend checking out The Fuck It Diet by Caroline Dooner. No, I wasn’t sponsored for mentioning this book. I really enjoy reading Caroline’s book. I wished that the information I knew now from this book was told to me when I was growing up. It would’ve saved me so much heartache and stress when in reality, my body is (and will always be) fine.

I don’t care in looking like a cookie cutter model. I just want to be me, happily eating my donuts, ice cream and pizza wherever and whenever I want without guilt and shame.

If you ever been shamed for eating and being told that you need to lose weight, tell them to mind their business. Do what makes you happy. You’re allowed to enjoy yourself to the fullest. Take up space. Be seen. Be heard.

Namaste,

Diana