The Right Words To Say

On bad days, Betsy is reminded by her family that she’s loved and cared.  In turn, Betsy’s days are better than ever because of their support.

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Happy Friday, friends 👋 a bit of a sentimental post as I’ve been reflecting on the changes happening within my life.

Between my son starting school, the upcoming launch of my jewelry line and my secret project, I’ve been feeling grateful for the support that I’ve received. My husband has been the biggest cheerleader when I post my illustrations. Sometimes, I would have bad days at work and he would cheer me up by telling me, “What would Betsy do?” I’m reminded that my own family will always be there for me. I rely on their support and know that my inspiration comes from the home front.

Who are your biggest cheerleaders in your life that motivates you to keep on going? I would love to read your responses in the comments below.

Namaste,
Diana

When your package is out for delivery

Betsy likes to order packages online. It saves her the trip from walking to her local craft store. Sometimes, the local mail carrier gets fed up with Betsy’s overspending habits and ends up keeping the package in the truck 😕

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Ordering items online can be a hit or miss. And I suspect that my local post office is fed up with my orders coming in on a daily basis. Hey, I’m trying to save on gas instead of driving to and from the grocery store when buying items in bulk at home 😑

I know there’s some good mail carriers out there who are friendly. But goodness, there are some who just don’t want to do the work. As we’re gearing towards the holiday season, online stores are gearing up for the shopping rush. I see myself spending less during the colder weather (with the exception of food). Because you know, survival reasons.

I think one of my “fondest” (note my sarcasm in quotes) memory on a mail delivery mishap was when years ago, I was looking to make aromatherapy sprays for myself and family / friends. I probably paid around $20 for the amber glass spray bottles and essential oils to arrive within the same day via Amazon. Usually with same day delivery shipping, it’s automatically sent via Lasership. I saw the package was out for delivery for about an hour. Eventually, I received an alert on my phone saying it was delivered. I said to myself, Great! I can finally work on my aromatherapy sprays and save myself money from buying premixed sprays.

Except…it was never delivered.

*plays Law & Order theme music*

After checking the areas in front of my home to see where my package went, I decided to contact the local Lasership base in New York. What should’ve taken less than 10 minutes ended up being the most awkward 45 minutes of my conversation between the representative and the manager of the place:

Me: “Hello, I noticed that the tracking number [reads off number over the phone] shows to be delivered but I never received the package.

Agent: “Um…ok. So sorry about it. It shows that it was delivered to the correct address.”

Me: “If it was, then I would have the package in my possession. Is there a way to get in touch with the driver?”

Agent: “He’s out for the day. He did send us a picture that it was delivered to your address.”

Me: “Strange. As I mentioned, it was not there when I checked my mailbox.”

Agent: [puts me on pause for 5 minutes; resumes chat] “Ok, the driver said it was there at the door.”

Me: “Nope. Not there.”

Agent: [puts me on pause for another 5 minutes; resumes chat] “Ok, the driver is saying that it’s near the door where the garbage can is located.”

Me: “…Nope. Did the driver forget where he delivered?”

[a brief pause]

Agent: “Let me connect you with my manager. Please hold.”

[after waiting 7 minutes]

Manager: “Hi there, I’m sorry that you didn’t receive your package. I want to make sure that we understand your situation carefully. So, just to confirm, you didn’t see it around your house?”

Me: “Yes, that’s correct.”

Manager: [briefly pauses, then speaks] “Well…I’m looking at the picture that our driver showed us. That’s a nice house you have here. Really nice house.”

Me: “Thanks, but that still doesn’t answer my question as to where the package went.”

Manager: [nervously laughs] “Well, I think you may have not looked carefully. After all, it’s a large house. You should’ve seen it in front  of the door.”

Me [feeling frustrated]: “Look, I already said this before with the agent. There is no package. My good guess is that right after the driver took the picture of the package, your driver ended up taking my order and placed it back in its car.”

Manager: [quickly becoming defensive]: “Sorry but that’s not true. Our driver made sure it was delivered.”

Me: “I’m not sure why you’re getting upset when I’m pointing this scenario out. If the driver really took the package, then I hope your driver is all right in learning how to create aromatherapy sprays for witchcraft purposes.”

Manager: [hangs up the phone].

And there you have it, folks. Luckily, I was able to let Amazon know about this experience and they were pretty quick to refund my purchase.

Got any stories you want to share about your experiences with your local mail carriers? Let me know in the comments!

Namaste,
Diana

Unrealistic weight expectations

Betsy felt that the “Jumping Over The Moon” Olympics was udderly a bunch of manure. Especially when the Moon was being snarky towards her.

“You should lose some weight. Then you’ll be able to achieve your dream,” the Moon said.

Betsy rolled her eyes. “Shut the moo up. I prefer my weight on the ground than being inflated with unrealistic expectations.”

Illustration done on Arteza Real Brush Watercolor Pens.


Betsy don’t have time for others who want to police her body. Even if they “meant well” (in their own terms, not hers).

I get it – most folks in society think that when they see a plus size / fat person walking on the street, they feel it’s their right to go up to that person and say “Hey, you need to lose weight so that you’ll live longer.” Or in some cases, feel the need to troll and bully others with comments like “lol go die you fattie.” This is not happening on social media and when we walk out in public, only. It can also be in the form of an app via our mobile devices, such as the case with Weight Watchers releasing their app that’s targeted for kids.

Let’s be clear – those type of comments are not endearing. The messages we send to others (whether subliminal or explicit) are abusive and is damaging to our self esteem. Telling someone to lose weight is like saying you just magically earned a degree in weight loss and you feel the need to share that information from the Internet because “science backed it up” and you want to be that friend/relative who cares about someone’s well being because they couldn’t fit in a single digit clothing size.

Nope, nope and nope 🙅🏻‍♀️ My response? Mind your own business.

Growing up, I’ve had those comments said to me when I was in high school. Even though I was a size 6 at the time, I often heard relatives and classmates telling me that I need to be thin. That I shouldn’t be eating fast food. Even when I became a mom, I sometimes see it from other mothers who passively made comments saying “well, so and so lost 20 pounds after giving birth. She looks so amazing!”

So, what you’re trying to tell me is that I should end up looking like a skeleton? 🤔

Yeah uh…no thanks. I prefer meat on my bones.

I used to go diet hopping years ago due to my insecurities. I tried weight loss pills, those teas where it promised you a “thinner version” without any exercise and sometimes barely ate anything. Not only I ended up being more sick, I felt miserable as shit.

I’ve always been told that you need to eat the “right kind of foods” to maintain your weight loss and if you eat those certain type of foods, you’ll gain weight and die early on. Sometimes, I’ve read stories about folks living up to 100 years old and beyond because their diet consisted of pizza, alcohol and smoking (name whatever vice here that society shunned upon).

Frankly, the topic of weight loss will always be highly debated. Everyone will always have a side in which they’ll fall under. Still, I think many of us should at least have the common sense in letting others be when it comes to their choices. It’s their bodies, their rules.

Speaking of the diet culture, I highly recommend checking out The Fuck It Diet by Caroline Dooner. No, I wasn’t sponsored for mentioning this book. I really enjoy reading Caroline’s book. I wished that the information I knew now from this book was told to me when I was growing up. It would’ve saved me so much heartache and stress when in reality, my body is (and will always be) fine.

I don’t care in looking like a cookie cutter model. I just want to be me, happily eating my donuts, ice cream and pizza wherever and whenever I want without guilt and shame.

If you ever been shamed for eating and being told that you need to lose weight, tell them to mind their business. Do what makes you happy. You’re allowed to enjoy yourself to the fullest. Take up space. Be seen. Be heard.

Namaste,

Diana

A (Not So Simple) Trip To The Local Craft Store

Betsy tried her hardest when she visited the local craft store to buy some yarn 🧶 She wanted to make a simple scarf for her Mister but she ended up buying more than needed.

Webcomic created with Procreate app.


Happy Friday, friends! Took the day off from work for a medical visit. The little one needed his flu shot and a haircut just before school starts. Here’s to hoping for a smooth transition and more time for me to work on my illustrations and programming on all things Betsy related 🐮 Did a simple prayer and tarot reading while writing down my intentions on what I would like to achieve during the New Moon in Virgo phase. My Moon in Virgo is feeling this so that explains the need for a more productive day, I guess.

Speaking of projects…I finally got back into loom knitting after putting it off for some time (i.e motherhood and job). Now that things are winding down for a bit, I figured it would be great to work on a blanket for my Pillow Pet Cow. And yes, for the kid as well 😛 the cold season is approaching so might as well be prepared.

If there’s one thing I know about going to Michaels, it can be heaven to my creative soul but hell on my wallet. It’s even worse when you are a frequent customer at the establishment (as noted in my tweet below):

I bought some yarns that are from Yarinspirations Caron x Pantone brand. I’m also getting a knitting machine in the mail that I hope to use when making scarves and hats in bulk.

I used to crochet, but I find that keeping the stitches straight has been a challenge. Even in making simple dolls was hard on my coordination. The only time I would use crochet is if I’ll do some simple finishing designs at the end of my work or just bind pieces together with the leftover yarn.

Do you happen to knit / crochet? Ever felt tempted to buy almost every single product at your local craft store? Let me know in the comments below 💭

Namaste,

Diana

The Secret Life

Many coworkers at her job have wondered how Betsy remains udderly zen during work hours. She rarely complains and is always helpful towards others.

One day, a coworker asked during her lunch break. “Betsy, what’s the secret to remaining calm?”

“Oh…I just work out on a frenzy during my weekends,” Betsy replied nonchalantly.

To this day, no one suspected Betsy as the type to enter in mosh pits during heavy metal concerts.

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I love music. But if there’s one genre I’ll listen to forever, it is heavy metal. As odd as it sounds, it keeps me focused and zen. Probably with the high energy factors in most of the songs. Who knows how my brain works.

Speaking of high energy, I went to see Papa Roach, Bad Wolves and Asking Alexandria perform at The Rooftop in Pier 17 on August 11, 2019. I was fortunate to see the email from Spotify a week before the event when it was announced that Papa Roach will be performing in NYC as they’re promoting their new album Who Do You Trust.

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The atmosphere was really great. It’s been ages since I visited South Street Seaport with my husband. So it was a nostalgic experience for the both of us when we saw the area newly renovated after it was hit by Hurricane Sandy.

We paid for the lounge upgrade and chilled out for a bit while we waited for the concert to start. Food wise, we tried out their sliders which were yummy. Highly recommend the lobster roll. I was stoked to see Tommy Vext (lead singer of Bad Wolves) up close as he was walking up to the concert area. After Bad Wolves performed, it was Asking Alexandria and then the main event, Papa Roach. Definitely worth the experience and a great way to end the weekend on a good note before heading back to work. 1BA0764D-E0B9-4FC8-A1BE-153827578EB9

One of my goals in life is to visit more heavy metal concerts. Maybe this year and next, it’ll happen more. Let’s see where life takes me.

Hope you’re having a fantastic Wednesday! Let me know in the comments if you’re a heavy metal fan.

Namaste,
Diana

 

 

Sing your heart out

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Betsy is hoping to belt out some tunes for her future karaoke trip. Think she’ll have a chance? 🤔


Hi friends 👋 happy August! Can’t believe we are four months away until the end of the year! Time flies when you’re drawing Betsy and having fun 😅

The last time I remember singing was through the Smule karaoke app. It was really nice to see some of my favorite rock songs that I could belt out to when I was feeling down. Unfortunately, my son has this habit of telling me to keep quiet whenever I attempt to sing my favorite tunes out loud. Hence, this is why I prefer singing in the car. Maybe when my son starts Pre-K, I’ll get back on Smule and belt out some tunes while he’s at school.

Do you happen to sing? If so, what are your favorite go-to songs? Let me know in the comments below.

Namaste,
Diana

Offline Activities

Betsy never bothered updating her social media profiles for the past couple of days. She was too busy being engrossed by a steamy love triangle which made her tired after binge reading the entire Romance of the Cows series.

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Betsy sometimes forget to post a status update on her social media profiles, especially when she’s in a binge reading marathon. She wants you to know that she’s alive and well. Although, her poor heart can’t take any more love plot twists and turns…

Been a while since my last post. Feels like forever. But, I have good reason in doing so.

Mercury Retrograde. The end.

Okay, so it’s not entirely true.

I’ve actually spent my time being offline since I was catching up on my writing, programming Episode 2 of Moo Times of Betsy and reading my books that I borrowed from my local library. Considering that Mercury Retrograde season is a time of self-reflection and not taking risks, I decided to practice more mindful moments and slowing down. Health has been an important factor so I’ve been doing what I can in making sure that I feel well.

I don’t know about you, but my mood has been improved ever since I’ve been scaling back on my social media usage. I think it’s important to take breaks in order to avoid burnout. A big accomplishment on my end is writing daily journal entries in focusing on things that I’m grateful for, along with small prayer requests. Highly recommend if you want to shift your perspective from the negativity to moments where you can feel proud of (whether if it’s small or big).

Do you find yourself spending less time on social media? If so, what do you do in terms of offline activities?

Namaste,
Diana